Thursday Spotlight: Couture Chateau Decorating Principle # 5. This one? Sometimes = Tough
Couture Chateau Decorating Principle # 5: Personal issues must be addressed for Decorating to Delight
On Sunday of this week, I started sharing my Couture Chateau Decorating Principles
Normally these are reserved for our Full Service Clients
However, in the spirit of being FEARLESS for 2013:
1) I am sharing nugget versions on the blog
2) I am putting together an affordable downloadable e-product as well
Universally Applicable + Uniquely Customizable
I created processes + binders, surveys & systems which are extensive
Nuggets = Digestible
Remember the Principles we’ve shared so far:
#1. Decorate with no more than 7 years in mind
#2. Remove any item that is emotionally unsafe
#3. Fiercely protect the heart of your home
#4. For Decorating to inspire it has to be authentically you
I share my next Decorating Principle carefully
Personal issues are tough
We feel stupid when they are exposed
Boiled it down but still included 3 of my parameters (there are 12)
Parameter #1) personal issues DO NOT need to be resolved, but they MUST BE addressed
Parameter # 2) personal issues CAN get messy, but messy is ok
Example: Client is “Destination House C” owned by a Multi Generational Extended Family Trust
Many cooks in the kitchen
Parameter # 3) Messy ONLY equals dis-function if we pretend we aren’t
Enter Decorator & Decision Time
Trustee M: “The Decorator is moving the Miro into the 2nd Floor Lakeside Suite”
Trustee F: “Don’t you stay in the 2nd Floor Lakeside Suite?”
Trustee M: “Not always”
Trustee F: “Yes you do, you can’t have the Miro, I want it to stay in my room”
Trustee M: “We don’t have rooms. The house is owned by the Trust.”
Trustee F: “Then I want to stay in the 2nd Floor Lakeside Suite”
Trustee M: “I thought you stayed on the 1st Floor because the morning light bothered you on the 2nd Floor”
Does the painting get moved?
How is the issue resolved?
Does it matter?
Have you ever heard someone describe a family that disintegrated over something seemingly small?
Personal issues. Everyone has them….
I don’t want to decorate where a family can disintegrate over something small
Addressing the personal issues AHEAD of time can prevent that
What we find out in the Decorating Principle Process:
Grandmother bought the painting when it was inexpensive, as a child, with her father because she liked the patterns
Grandmother cannot travel any longer to “Destination House C”
Her ONLY wish for the Decorator is to move the painting into the Lakeside Suite on the 2nd Floor because the colors & patterns reflect beautifully when the sun streams in. It reminds her of when the painting was in her room as a child, when it was inexpensive & she just liked the patterns & shapes…
For the Decorator to have a beautiful photograph taken of that vignette to hang in her current home
Do you know this?
Or are you still mad about not having the Miro in “your suite”
Or are you still ticked at Trustee F for derailing an efficient business meeting? I mean ruuheally…can’t she get a life?
Decorating Principles Processes? = you BOTH know it and are at peace with it.
You know WHY the painting is being moved.
Personal Issues. Everyone has them….
We moved the painting to Delight someone
If we are hung up on personal issues, we CAN’T delight for Grandmother
If we are hung up on personal issues we don’t WANT anyone else to delight
Trustee F will PERCIEVE Trustee M is trying to control things
(Trustee M is the Trust Director & runs a successful business)
Trustee M will PERCIEVE Trustee F is indecisive and jealous
(Trustee F is an Artist who is deeply fond of Miro)
Addressing personal issues makes room for grace which leads to ability to delight
The point is, personal issues can be anything
Dogs, Paintings, Colors…Patterns…Memories…even Moods & Goals…
Think about it – what are some of yours?
Since we are only working in 7 year increments, they aren’t forever….
We are all messy. Trust Funds or Trailers. All.
Messy does NOT have to equal dis-function. Messy can be cleaned up.
It’s why I developed these Principles. They help us navigate & clean up.
Spot clean the mess. So YOU & YOURS (mine + ours) can delight.
And yes, the Miro got moved
for 7 years…
“Live a custom life. There is only one you.”™